Guest post by Rose Lockinger
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With the holidays right around the corner, millions of American’s will soon be going out and buying presents for their loved ones. They’ll be waiting in long lines during Black Friday and they will be scrambling to make sure that Amazon Prime delivers on time, as they make last minute buys to create the perfect holiday season.
Yet there is a gift that millions of American’s won’t receive this year and that gift is sobriety. It is currently estimated that 10% of the population suffers from an addiction of some sort, which is roughly 30 million people. Luckily there are an estimated 23 million people in this country already in recovery, but that still leaves around 7 million people who will be suffering through the holidays with their addictions. The reality is that most will continue to suffer through the hell of what it is to live in active addiction or worse they will not make it through to see another year.
Many will go into December making resolutions for the new year that they will get clean and sober and some will follow through on this, while others won’t. But I say to that, why wait until January when you can get sober today? Think of it like this, if a new game came out and you could afford to give yourself that gift right now, would you put it off for two months or would you go out and get it right now? More than likely you said you’d go out and get it now, and so the same thing should go for sobriety. Why would you put it off for some later date when it is available to you right now?
I don’t mean to sound chintzy, but after almost 2 1/2 years on this journey of sobriety I still get excited about what it has done for my life and I still want everyone out there suffering to get the gifts that I have received.
For so many years drugs and alcohol ruled my life. I was ruled by my emotions and most days I just really wanted to be dead. There was nothing on this earth that could truly cheer me up. Even my children were often times not enough to make me feel better, even though I loved them with all of my heart.
Each day I would wake up knowing that I was going to get high or drunk and knowing that no matter how much I didn’t want to, I couldn’t stop it. I had ruined pretty much all of the relationships in my life and by the time that I finally got sober I felt a shell of a woman, completely void of anything decent.
Then I got the gift of sobriety and my entire life changed. I was transformed from a hopeless addict and drunk into a respectable woman and productive member of society. I was able to be the mother that I always want to be and I found a job that I truly love.
The gifts that sobriety gave me are more than this, though because it allowed me to finally respect myself and gave me the opportunity to create a relationship with a higher power. But not just this it allowed me to explore and nurture a spiritual relationship something that intuitively I had craved yet never followed. With teachers like Gabby Bernstein and Marianne Williamson I began to learn that true healing comes from within. It stems from the ability to learn to love yourself. I also found that with the completion of the steps I finally found a relationship with a higher power that I love.
I have been given the ability to experience peace in my life, not always, but a majority of the time, and I have been given tools to handle anything that life throws at me.
For as long as I can remember I never felt equipped to handle existence. It always just felt too difficult to me and I could never understand how other people just seemed to go through life unimpeded by the difficulties I had. Once I got sober I found out the answer to this and I also learned how to successfully navigate life and rejoin the world of the living.
Most importantly sobriety gave me a fellowship— a fellowship where I feel like I belong and with it, friends that I can truly count on. I don’t know about you but most of my life I felt like the outsider. I felt like people didn’t understand me and that I thought differently than everyone, but once I got sober I found my people and I no longer felt alone in my thoughts.
While sobriety isn’t always easy, especially in the beginning, it is truly the best gift you can ever give yourself and the best thing about it is, it doesn’t cost any money. If you live near a major city then there are literally thousands of meetings that you can attend throughout the week and if you have a dollar for the basket great, but if you don’t you’re still welcome.
The hardest part about getting this gift is making the decision that you are worth the effort. Many times addicts and alcoholics either don’t believe they can actually get sober, or they don’t believe they are worthy of sobriety, but I am here to tell you that you are worth it and you can do it. I know this because I felt the same way and yet I am here today a sober woman.
So if you are thinking about possibly getting sober at some point in the future, stop delaying and go to a meeting tonight. Your life is worth it and I guarantee you that you will not regret your decision to put down the drugs and alcohol and pick up a life of plenty. I hope that you find the gift that I have received and I wish you all a happy holidays and a happy sobriety!
Rose Lockinger is passionate member of the recovery community. A rebel who found her cause, she uses blogging and social media to raise the awareness about the disease of addiction. She has visited all over North and South America. Single mom to two beautiful children she has learned parenting is without a doubt the most rewarding job in the world. Currently the Outreach Director at Stodzy Internet Marketing
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